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Friday, January 8, 2010

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How to Detect Lies
Become a Lie Detector

Introduction to Detecting Lies:
The following techniques to telling if someone is lying are often used by police and security experts. This knowledge is also useful for managers, employers, and for anyone to use in everyday situations where telling the truth from a lie can help prevent you from being a victim of fraud/scams and other deceptions.
Warning: Sometimes Ignorance is bliss; after gaining this knowledge, you may be hurt when it is obvious that someone is lying to you.
Signs of Deception:
Body Language of Lies:
• Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm and hand movements. Hand, arm and leg movement are toward their own body the liar takes up less space.
• A person who is lying to you will avoid making eye contact.
• Hands touching their face, throat & mouth. Touching or scratching the nose or behind their ear. Not likely to touch his chest/heart with an open hand.
Emotional Gestures & Contradiction
• Timing and duration of emotional gestures and emotions are off a normal pace. The display of emotion is delayed, stays longer it would naturally, then stops suddenly.
• Timing is off between emotions gestures/expressions and words. Example: Someone says "I love it!" when receiving a gift, and then smile after making that statement, rather then at the same time the statement is made.
• Gestures/expressions don’t match the verbal statement, such as frowning when saying “I love you.”
• Expressions are limited to mouth movements when someone is faking emotions (like happy, surprised, sad, awe, )instead of the whole face. For example; when someone smiles naturally their whole face is involved: jaw/cheek movement, eyes and forehead push down, etc.








Interactions and Reactions
• A guilty person gets defensive. An innocent person will often go on the offensive.
• A liar is uncomfortable facing his questioner/accuser and may turn his head or body away.
• A liar might unconsciously place objects (book, coffee cup, etc.) between themselves and you.
Verbal Context and Content
• A liar will use your words to make answer a question. When asked, “Did you eat the last cookie?” The liar answers, “No, I did not eat the last cookie.”
•A statement with a contraction is more likely to be truthful: “ I didn't do it” instead of “I did not do it”
• Liars sometimes avoid "lying" by not making direct statements. They imply answers instead of denying something directly.
• The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary details to convince you... they are not comfortable with silence or pauses in the conversation.

• A liar may leave out pronouns and speak in a monotonous tone. When a truthful statement is made the pronoun is emphasized as much or more than the rest of the words in a statement.

• Words may be garbled and spoken softly, and syntax and grammar may be off. In other
words, his sentences will likely be muddled rather than emphasized.

• The use of distancing language. 
Other signs of a lie:
• If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a conversation quickly, a liar follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed. The guilty wants the subject changed; an innocent person may be confused by the sudden change in topics and will want to back to the previous subject.
• Using humor or sarcasm to avoid a subject.
Final Notes:
Obviously, just because someone exhibits one or more of these signs does not make them a liar. The above behaviors should be compared to a persons base (normal) behavior whenever possible.
Most lie detecting experts agree that a combination of body language and other cues must be used to make an educated guess on whether someone is telling the truth or a lie. 


10 comments:

  1. walau ada detector tertipu gak kak:) walau ada syak wasangka walau rasa ada yang tak kena tertipu gak :) but sepandai pandai tupai melompat satu hari jatuh gak -tunggujala heheh

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  2. em.. kekadang ada gak kita x bleh nk detect penipuan sbb ada yg pakar ngannya hehe

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  3. Ass-salam ERMAYUM
    gerakhati kite selalu betul...cuma sejauh mana kite yakin dengan gerakhati untuk mempastikan ia yang benar sering menbuatkan kite tidak bertindak kerana ingin kite selalu bersangka baik...

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  4. Sejahtera buat maiyah
    betul maiyah...sukar untuk kite kenal meka ini ...kerana mungkin mereka dah terlalu biase lakukannya...hingga kite sukar kesan perubahan dan petanda yang dipamerka...
    Namun...kita ada Satu Kuasa yang Maha Agung...ia itu Allah!

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  5. To dear Anonymous
    TQ for dropping a few lines...
    that;s what i often do...if the fruit is meant by possitive values...plus 'my Duah' to Allah...the Mighty Protecter.

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  6. lead pantang ngn penipu..huhu~!! tapi org yg suka menipu ni mmg pndai cover line..kdg2 lead yg bendul pon leh tertipu..huhu~!!!

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  7. Ass-salam sweet sis lead
    Kak Hazeleyed pun sama...tapi kalu student yang buat boleh lah ambil tindaka...kalau kawan kawan tu...simpan perangai diaorang sebagai pedoman masa depan...
    Happy week end ...

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  8. salam. ada pendapat mengatakan mata tidak boleh menipu, walaupun mulut manis berkata-kata.

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  9. Memang betul DrSam...Namun terkadang kite tak mahir atau mungkin terkeliru dalam memahami bahasa mata...
    Have a nice week end.

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