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Friday, June 10, 2011

Bunga telur & Melayu...

School holidays ~ weddings...
significant and unavoidable...
But...lately...
Hazeleyed lady is...a little dissapointed!
Hmmm...
A Malay wedding is no no longer reflects the Malay's...
Not only the way it is carried out...
what not...
Marhaban and Berzanji that used to start the big day...is no longer popular...
and taken by a Karaoke session that somehow enhances uncles and aunties of the bride or groom to try out their long - buried talent (dengan alasan sekali sekala ...suka-suka ish!)...or nerve wrecking music ...the least ( rural or urban ...i see no difference )...families appeared to be forced by the community... to spend over things that are not according to Syariah...but rather on ...local Adat...and obviously... non Islamic.
Some family don't even bother to preserve a separate tent for the guests...
Worst still...
'Bunga Telur ' is no longer their main concern ...as it is replaced by cup cakes and jelly or even cheap and  sweets... 
'Bunga rampai' too is replaced by potpourri made in China... sigh!
Hazeleyed lady feels that it is so ...not a Malay wedding that i used to be proud of .
I feel... some artistics and cultural values in preparing the 'bunga telur and bunga rampai' that make it unique...in it's own way...
Semangat gotong royong yang semakin lenyap...walaupun di kampung...
Sedih tak...
Or perhaps ...Hazeleyed lady is being conservative??? Out dated???

5 comments:

  1. bab karaoke memang saya tak suka

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  2. To sweet sis kl citizen with lots of love

    ...yang malangnya...searang ni ia dah semacam perkara wajib dalam setiap majlis Kenduri kahwin...terutama di kampung2!

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  3. Assalamulaikum my dear sis..:)

    kenapa yaa..perlunya ada karoeke nyanyi2 yaa..
    memang samalah dgn Kak Normah..tak suka!:(

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  4. Assalamualaikum my dear sis..:)

    Moga kakak dikurniakan Allah Taala kesihatan yang berpanjangan dan sentiasa dalam rahmat kasih sayang~Nya...amin

    Keadaan majlis perkahwinan orang-orang melayu Islam sekarang ni banyak disertakan dengan perkara yang dilarang oleh syarak. Bimbang tidak turunnya berkah dalam majlis yang mulia itu.

    Takperlah kak! Biarlah orang kata kita kolok atau out dated asalkan kita masih mempertahankan kesucian Agama Islam dan baik dalam pandangan Allah Taala.

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  5. Salam kak, yang datang pun sekarang cuma salam dan makan sahaja. Kalau dulu, habis setengah hari duduk bersembang bertepuk tampar... sekarang dah tak sempat-sempat...

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